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By making sure that we are the chief architects of not only the contents but also inspiration behind our resolutions, they can mean more to us and last longer than the season. 


It’s the end of the year again and almost the start of the next. Besides being the season to slow down, spend quality time with close friends and family, it is also the season of hope. The end of the year to many signifies a figurative end to all the “bad” that came with it and most importantly the hope of higher grounds to be met in the coming year. 

It is in this hope that many of us set it upon themselves to start the year in high gear both in spirit and actions and how better can one commence if not by making resolutions? 

In a huge way making resolutions is synonymous to the start of the year. Here we set it upon ourselves to not only correct the wrongs that we did in the previous year but to also set higher goals and standards. As experience has taught us it is one thing to aspire and yet another to acquire/achieve. 

For many of us resolutions end up being just for the season. As soon as the year gets and feels “old enough” we forget our aspirations and return to “just getting by”. 

Why does this happen? Why do we forget our goals and what they mean to us so quickly? To answer these questions it is essential that we think about the whole idea of making resolutions. 

The idea of making New Year resolutions is an old tradition starting in the Western and Eastern worlds. At the beginning of each year people made promises to their gods to return borrowed items and pay debts. In some traditions people made promises to continue with good deeds and stop unwanted habits. 

In modern times New Year resolutions have been about setting personal goals at the beginning of the year. As such to many of us making resolutions (recollecting and establishing better plans going forward) is hugely seasonal, something we do because it is that season. 

I believe this is why most of us (a whooping 88%) fail to realise our resolutions, because the initiative and inspiration to make them is not of our own design and making. This is also why most of the goals turn to be unrealistic and perhaps even not practical to our current realities. 

The idea to start afresh and change our lives for the better is highly noble only if we can effect it. There is nothing wrong with Making New Year resolutions if the process itself can be centred on ourselves, what we want and the truth borne by our realities. 

More important than simply making resolutions is understanding exactly what we want. It is not good enough to simply want to lose weight, you also need to understand how losing that weight is going to fit into your life, whether it is going to be a stepping stone for more achievements, what it will mean to the day to day running of your life, what it will mean to your relationships, what it will mean FOR YOU! After establishing these things you then have to ask yourself the grand question, whether you want these things and their implications in your life. 

By making sure that we are the chief architects of not only the contents but also inspiration behind our resolutions, they can mean more to us and last longer than the season. 

Most importantly let us not forget that we do not have to wait until the end of the year to correct what we do not want in our lives, any moment is ripe to be a better person. 

That’s all for now,remember if the resolutions are not by you and for you, then maybe you are doing it all for the wrong reasons. 

Thanks to Andreas Dress @andreasdress for making this photo available freely on Unsplash 🎁

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